Why did you start Short Guys Rule?
When I was single I couldn’t find any resource to overcoming my biggest problem – I just wasn’t getting dates. As a 5’4″ guy I got shot down a few too many times and I lacked confidence with women … and it showed. I was a nice guy, had a good job, even bought a cool car … but at one point went 18 months without a date.
Every social situation I was intimidated that the taller guys got the attention. I lacked confidence on every level – even if I did get up the courage to talk to a woman I wasn’t sure what to say to keep her attention. I new there had to be a secret to attracting women (the tall guys were doing it) but I didn’t know where to start finding it.
One time I was riding the subway and saw a really cute gal on the seat across from me. There were hardly any people on the train, it was evening and close to the last stop. I looked at her and gave a smile. She gave me a big smile back, and I was on top of the world for a few seconds – then I froze. Here was a perfect opportunity to meet a woman who is inviting me to come over and talk, and I just sat there. It turned awkward as we sat looking at each other for a few moments too long, and I could tell I’d turned from an interesting guy into a creepy guy in her head. I got off at the next stop just to get away, even though it wasn’t my stop.
I’ll never forget that uncomfortable feeling.
So what did you do?
I realized I needed to do something about my dating life. I looked all over the Internet and all I found was hype. Plenty of sites with over the top “meet any girl and get her in bed in 10 minutes” stuff. I actually bought some of those ebooks, because that’s all I found on the web – and not surprisingly they didn’t work and I was out $99.
Since there wasn’t anything out there for me, I had to figure it out myself.
How did you do that?
I started by reading a ton of books, and realized showing women you have confidence is the key to success. And showing confidence is a lot like mastering other skills – like riding a bike or learning a new sport. It just takes training.
The hard part is figuring out how to train. Information on the web isn’t organized to give step by step directions, and it’s hard to know what’s real and what’s hype. So I started trying out different techniques I read about, and keeping track of what worked and what didn’t.
So in the end what worked?
The system is actually pretty simple. On Short Guys Rule we talk about your confidence with women as being like a car – before you can go anywhere you need four tires – there are four main areas for building confidence. I put these together into the 4-Step System for Complete Confidence:
- Step 1: Reflection – get right perspective in your head
- Step 2: Projection – present yourself in the best way
- Step 3: Location – know the best places and situations to meet women
- Step 4: Attraction – how to spark attraction in women
We also talk about the fuel for building confidence, and giving your confidence a ‘tune up’ to make sure you’re continuing to succeed.
Bringing the formula down to easy to understand concepts helped me to keep them straight in my head.
What were your results?
Making small changes to what I did, I built up my confidence – going from not having a date in 18 months to being comfortable enough with myself to start a conversation with any woman, to getting really good at getting dates. I’m now married to a fantastic gal.
I hate to say this since it’s going to sound like the hype that I hate on other sites, but at the time I met my wife I was actually dating five women at once. It actually less amazing than it sounds – I had to take notes on who was who, which was totally stressful.
The point is, I went from zero confidence to having so much confidence in my game that my height just didn’t matter.
So why did you create Short Guys Rule?
Because I wished it existed when I was single. There was no one place to go where I could get step by step help getting confidence with women. I wanted to create the resource I never had. I’m not here to promise that you will be dating five girls at once, but if you follow the system you’ll have the tools you need to increase your confidence step by step.
What’s with the name of the site?
When I was learning about what women want, I did a survey – and it totally opened my eyes. 8 out of 10 women actually consider any guy under 5’8″ as “too short” and any guy under 5’6″ as “too short to date.”
It turns out that in the real world confidence can completely overcome this – but without confidence, us “too short” guys just don’t get noticed.
So even if you’re 5’7″ and don’t think of yourself as short, the fact is women do see you that way. And the way to make sure you get the dating life you deserve is with confidence. Calling the site “Short Guys Rule” is my way of taking back the idea that we’re “too short”. No, we rule.
Why is there a members-only area? Why isn’t everything public on the website?
The most powerful part of Short Guys Rule is the community forum, where you can post questions and problems and get answers. By keeping this in a private community you can be sure that you’re getting advice from me and other guys who have solved the exact same problems you face … not just anyone at the web. Joining a no-judgement, private forum is by far the best way to get results.
What’s the next step for short guys wanting to learn how to build confidence with women?
I’ve written a book called The Short Cut: Kick-Starting Confidence with Women for Short Guys – just enter your email address and I’ll send it to you free, along with weekly tips on how to build your confidence. It’s a great way to start learning what you might be doing wrong, and how to fix it quickly.